An experienced counselor recently admitted to me that she felt out of her depth when a mother and adult daughter both came to see her for help with their incessant arguing. She said that she struggled to identify the core reasons for their arguments, and she knew that the communication skills and boundaries she tried to instill in them did not address the core reasons for their relationship difficulties. Sadly, this counselor is not alone. Colleagues frequently tell me that they feel unprepared when it comes to working with mothers and daughters.
The latter is something many toxic moms do as their children get older and start dating, often because they can't stand when the spotlight isn't on them. She has hurt me all my life, and, really, everyone I love. A slut.
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