Most Canadians do not think about trans women. Unless you know one of us personally or we share a workplace, I doubt the lives of trans women have ever crossed your mind. Sometimes I wonder what strangers think or see when they recognize me as trans on the street or in the subway. The most painful moments in my life have come from hearing, often unsolicited, what people in my life think of my gender. If our everyday existence as trans women is uncontemplated by a majority of Canadians, our love lives are completely invisible.
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When I invited members of the twittersphere to share their trans love stories and I was overwhelmed by the response. Being trans does not stop us from finding love. Love can be painful and it can be cruel but it can also be wonderful, giving us hope and showing us that we can be accepted and appreciated for who we are. A huge thank you to all those who were generous enough to share their stories — they offer irrefutable proof that trans love is not only possible but it is just as real and valid as any other love.
Skip navigation! Trans visibility is better than it ever has been but trans women in happy, loving relationships with men are almost completely absent from mainstream media. With perhaps the exception of Janet Mock , whose New York Times bestseller Redefining Realness documents her relationship and marriage, it is rare to see trans women publicly loved and desired. This lack of visibility makes it easy to draw the conclusion that trans women aren't lovable, which has an understandable effect on their self-esteem especially early in their transition. It also helps stigmatise the cis men who desire trans women.
Cis men who love trans women are all around us. The secrecy they keep has only led to misunderstanding, and in the worst cases, violence, as cis men often fear their masculinity is at stake. He asked VICE to withhold his name in the interest of protecting his privacy at work.